Cheating, Wrong or Animal Instinct?
THE FOUNDATION: Let me start by saying that the following content is in no way a campaign of me making excuses for cheating. Cheating is wrong on all planes of human life. However, I can’t help to think that maybe the initial desire is not always a sexual appetite but derived from our animal instinct. Yes, directly imitative of our distant cousins. I mean, think about it, at the core of mankind we are animals, are we not? This is something that no one can deny. Our ancestors may have utilized their animal instincts way more than we do today but within us all still simmers those very same animal intuitions that they used to survive … or more relevant, to reproduce.
Take a look at the animal kingdom, more specifically at the great lion. Male lions only stay with the female lions one to three years and then move on to another female and another and another. Sounds familiar?
THE FACTS: The majority of the time, it’s the female lion that goes and does the hunting or gathers the food. In our society, it is commonly the female that does the grocery shopping for the household. Now wait, I am not saying this to be some kind of macho, egotistical prick. Let’s face it, women do the grocery shopping because they are better shoppers than us men. Female lions do the hunting because they are better hunters than the male lion.
In the case that a male lion does hunt, what is the first thing he does? He carefully searches a herd of his prey. He chooses the one that will put up the least amount of resistance and sets his eyes on the easy kill. He keeps a low profile until the perfect moment, waiting to strike and make the kill. As men, we often do this at bars and nightclubs. We find that perfect location where we can hideout. No, I do not mean to literally hideout. What I mean is we choose to stand in a spot where we look calm and unthreatening to the herd or group of women that sit across the way. We observe the crowd until we find a woman that we feel we can take home that night, the prey that will give up the least amount of fight.
A starving lion will eat just about anything that it lays his eyes on. I know I have been guilty of trying new foods especially once my stomach begins to rumble. On the brink of starvation, humans are able to do things that to some may seem impossible.
The lion is perceived as the king of the jungle. Men are perceived as the king of the house. Well not all men, some women may beg to differ but you get the drift. One thing that women cannot deny is the expectations of men to protect the family. The same expectation that is required of a male lion to protect the pride.
THE THEORY: I have several friends, those who are loyal and some who are guilty of cheating. If cheating was the equivalent of stealing a candy bar from the local convenient store, then these guys would be in prison for life. That’s how many times these guys have cheated. Now you ask why these guys are even in relationships. Well that’s a topic for another day. For most guys it does not appear to be a question of rather they love their significant other or not. Men sometimes have sex just for the act of having sex with no emotions attached. What is intriguing is when a man cannot explain his hoaxing ways when he has committed himself and has promised to only be sexually active with one person.
Sure there are multiple reasons why men cheat; you may choose any reason from revenge to a traumatizing event that happen during ones adolescence. However, I’m not convinced that we accept every option. I write this to simply say, with all the comparisons between man and the lion, why is it that we accept a majority of the similarities yet we invalidate any possibility that those same animal instincts may cause our uncontrollable desire for other women?
I presume the real question is not what causes a man to cheat or why a man would bother to cheat. It is conclusive that all men have that sexual appetite. I guess the better question would be as to why some men are able to conquer this appetite and why some men are controlled by the sexual appetite–or should I say animal instinct?